The OF are seen as "the place you go to let the devs know what you think" (Even though the devs have cited taking feedback from reddit/ twitter and so on. Really no reason to think they gaf about the OF any more than anything else) so the OF seem to be the place most people go to whine and complain with next to zero moderation. That's caused the culture on the OF to be non-stop "Me Me Me, what I want". Add in the general toxic positivity of the FF14 fandom in some regards AND the fact that you can only "like" things but not "dislike", and you have a collection of people who just scream about wanting XYZ without having to critically think about their discussions.

Reddit is its own community with its own problems linked to FF14's toxic positivity, but at the very least that subreddit can band together to boot topics they're tired of hearing about. Here, you can't stop some troll from making troll threads and everyone seems encouraged/ emboldened to just B&M about every aspect of the game with.

I'd found that large communities for games like this that are widely beloved by the playerbase can tend to be positive, as ... people generally like coming together to talk about ish they like when they're having fun. That's what I see on 4chan and discords at least. I think 4chan accepts the game for what it is the most of any community, the good and bad and ugly of it. Same with FB groups, the smaller the community, the more likely it seems that people will be honest and accepting about things.