Increasing number of players using 3rd party tools

[Caitlyn]

Please read my 3rd paragraph. I said it should be encouraged. However, it is not your job to parent anyone and bringing it up in a manner that isn't polite or constructive won't solve the problem you're looking to solve. If someone is literally ignoring you or trolling then vote kick and move forward with your day.

There's also the old reliable method of doing content with your FC/friends that you already know the skill range of if randoms performing poorly is something that is bothersome.

Not to parent anyone. But what choice do we have? If I see someone who is performing extremely low, I would talk to him and try to help him.
But just by saying: "Your damage is pretty low", I can be reported for a) using a third party tool and b) somehow insulting or whatever.
So I keep my mouth shut and have to watch when some "mentor" making the situation even worse.

Sure, its not my job to play the big teacher for each underperformer. But its an MMORPG and i want to communicate and interact with other people.

Bad apples always happens. It feels like you want the people who wasted your time to be held accountable for it. You are right it is a mmorpg. When you go into a group prebuilt of strangers. That is the risk you took, and if someone wants to play bad in that group. Well within right to do so. That is the risk that balances out how easy it is to make a group. You also have the tools to increase your success chance, if you don't want to take the risk.

I wont punish 6 other people by abandon a good group, just because of one underperformer.