Filial piety, aka, the respect for one's elders, look not for excitement in the troubles of others, try to solve your problems using your own strength, etc. are products of Confucianism.
But over thousands of years, the ideas were warped, becoming what you have described above.
Feudal Japan copied almost everything they had from China, which is why Confucian ideas are so deeply ingrained in Japanese society.
Today, "Asian parents" is used in a derogatory way for the exact reason.
From the geography to the landscape to the names of NPCs to the FATEs to the dungeon tucked away in the corner, Doma is clearly, and unmistakably, China.
YoshiP declaring Doma as ancient Japan was likely done to avoid controversy, as FF14's Chinese audience would not take kindly to Samurai ruling over faux China.
Plus, the Japanese would be less than pleased to see Imperial Japan, aka, Garleans in Doma portrayed in a bad light either.
Like many in England, a sizable amount of the Japanese believe that imperialism was a good thing, even in modern times.
I am VERY familiar with it all.
A LOT more than I'd like to admit.
I've been avoiding bringing culture into this discussion, yet again and again some have seen fit to do just that.
Not only does it severely cheapen the conversation, it is not a subject you'd want to see me rant about.
On a side note, MilkieTea posted a link on page 3 explaining the difference between Sympathy and Empathy.
To clarify, did you mean to say you are sympathetic or empathetic towards Yotsuyu?