There's a super easy way to not have to deal with those people. Don't let the game randomly match you. Get out there, make friends with like-minded folks, and go on your merry way.

Is that saying that you can't have personal expectations? No. I have plenty of folks I group with who make me groan.

But if you aren't going to lift a finger to control the environment you game in and instead just lazily let the game choose for you, then you should temper those expectations and be understanding that others may not have the same viewpoint. If it's that horrendous, then just leave. Otherwise, see if you can make the experience positive and lead by example. Will you have to carry sometimes? Yep. But that's the cover charge for putting your fate in the hands of a random matching system.