Quote Originally Posted by Dzian View Post
People don't talk because the game is incredibly anti social in so many ways.

You can start with the button spam combat system that never really grants a moment to type a sentence or make a social connection. Because of your typing your either falling behind or not doing your job.

But even if you could chat you cant sendnir receive tells in duties anyway so building social connections there is also a nono.

Then there's the msq itself and it's arbitrary forcing you to be a Billy no mates. You cannot progress because your in a party with friends. Even if there all a the exact same point in the msq.

You cant help your friends either in some cases like Savage because of you do you'll gimp there rewards so again anti social there.

There's also group sizes everyrhibgbis strictly 4 8 24 man so if you have 6 7 10 people that all want to do something people are inevitably going to get left out or excluded or noone does anything because the 7 people that want to play together now need an 8th pug which will interfere with any loot plans they may have..

All if this leads to social connections and "friends" often being incredibly shallow and superficial... not to unlike Facebook where someone thinks there popular because they have 1000 friends... yet never has meaningfull interactions with any of them and still feels.lonely and depressed because none of those 1000 friends are real..

Oh and duty finder. So you got a duty with 3 or 7 other players.. chances are once the duty is complete you'll never get matched with them again and if you do it'll be so long ago you forgot them..

All of which play big parts in why people dont communicate and the social interaction in Xiv is so superficial
It sounds like you are just bitter you haven't been able to make friends in this game the way you want to.


I have several I've been playing with for.... About 7 years now. And we've gotten together irl for events and stuff. They are proba ly the best friends I have, and are almost like family. I know I'm not the o ly one with that experience too.


The game just doesn't force you to be social. So you have to put effort into it.