So i think I figured out everything but the touchpad, which i really don't care if it works.

I swapped to a USB 2.0 port on the back of my PC. I waited for windows to recognize it, loaded the game. Set the controller layout to PS4 and recalibrated. Triangle functions again.

I swapped jump and map and those both work. Now i need to figure out the extended cross hotbars. And how to get the stupid menu buttons off them. If i need to see my mount list i still have my keyboard and mouse. Lol.