I think it's fine for a nation to decide not to involve itself in foreign affairs and cling to a stance of neutrality. In turn, they shouldn't expect any help from others if they themselves find themselves in trouble.

It wasn't as if they didn't attempt to do anything to diffuse tensions, either. They sent diplomats to Garlemald in an effort to dissuade Eorzea from being conquered and their words fell on deaf ears. They chose to withdraw from Eorzea rather than stand and fight - and their choice should be respected, as far as I'm concerned.

To me, it's just a case of the likes of Alphinaud and Alisae being so selfish that they believe that every nation needs to conform to their world view and if they do not then they need to be strong armed into changing their mind.

As for the family squabbling, the twins have long since overstayed their welcome in the story for me so at this point I'm rather indifferent to their 'plight'. Their father already respected their decision to take their leave of Sharlayan in favour of following in their Grandfather's footsteps, even if Fourchenault disagreed with it. Sure, he might have disowned them but I don't think that is going to hit them as hard as some seem to be implying. For starters, they've barely mentioned their mother or father up until this point, they're not lacking in supportive individuals around them and they've already been throwing themselves headfirst into danger on repeated occasions.