
Originally Posted by
MilkieTea
Id like to clear up a little bit of a misconception it seems youre having. Im not a man because I think or act like a man - in fact, I also played with barbies growing up. I loved dress up games, dressing up “like a girl”, putting on my step moms makeup, walking around in high heels. To this day, I love dresses, shoes, all things pink and considered “girly.” But I still grew up calling myself a boy when others called me a girl, because that was what my brain said (not what I THOUGHT, but what my brain was signalling to my body). The dressing up? That felt like a costume to me. It was, well, playing dress up. And it felt the same way when I went to school and everyone called me “she” and said I was a girl because I looked like a girl on the outside.
Just like you playing with barbie dolls didnt make you grow up to be less of a man, neither did it make me. The only thing that it did was make others think of me as more feminine than I felt.
Transgender isnt changing to conform to societies expectations of what a man, or a woman, or a nonbinary person is. It’s fixing the mismatch from your OWN brain to your body. For some people, that IS conforming to societal expectations - dressing overly masculine and acting with bravado, puffing their chest out and screaming about trucks etc. For others its making small changes to how the people closest to them address them and interact with them. Take people like Blaire White, she fully transitioned sans bottom surgery. She feels comfortable without bottom surgery, because she reached a point where her brain wasnt screaming at her that her body wasn’t correct. It is DEFINITELY not societies expectation for a woman to have male genitals. But its as far as she needed to go to correct the mismatch.
I dont even like Blaire (I think she’s a grifting POS who panders to right wing idiots who cant be bothered to do a modicum of research before spouting off their insane ideas) but shes a perfect example of what I mean.