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[RyuDragnier]

Was reminded today is the first anniversary of my father's death...and now I'm angry. Because of course he'd have died and left the rest of the family to clean up his messes, AGAIN. Of course Mr "I'll procrastinate everything" left all the dirty work to his family, AGAIN. OF COURSE I'D STILL BE ANGRY ABOUT HIM BECAUSE THE MAN LEFT MOM ALONE AND SHE'S CRYING OVER SOMEBODY WHO SHE SHOULDN'T SHED TEARS OVER! Yeah, I have a lot of pent up anger about my late father which I still hold.

[Vyrerus]

Was reminded today is the first anniversary of my father's death...and now I'm angry. Because of course he'd have died and left the rest of the family to clean up his messes, AGAIN. Of course Mr "I'll procrastinate everything" left all the dirty work to his family, AGAIN. OF COURSE I'D STILL BE ANGRY ABOUT HIM BECAUSE THE MAN LEFT MOM ALONE AND SHE'S CRYING OVER SOMEBODY WHO SHE SHOULDN'T SHED TEARS OVER! Yeah, I have a lot of pent up anger about my late father which I still hold.

Well, I know it probably doesn't help much, but at least you don't have the reverse situation that I've got.

My lovely mother, saint with a crooked smile, got claimed by Pancreatic Cancer. Leaving my A-hole dad behind. He hasn't saddled me with anything in the way your dad has you, but it's awfully hard for me to feel sorry for my dad. He's pounding a dozen or so beers and several scotches daily now, all the while insisting he isn't depressed. When mom got her cancer diagnosis, he was adamant that the doctor was wrong and would not empathize with her one iota.

When she was in her final stages and bedridden, he tried to tell my brother who lives half the continent away to not immediately come out to see her one last time, insisting that she was going to bounce back and be fine the rest of the year. Instead of just asking her if she wanted my brother to come see her. So I did, and she did want him to come, because she said the pain was so intense that she might pass any moment.

Sometimes I really wonder how they stuck together for 42 years. There's just some moments from life that I can't forgive my father for, and while I don't hate him, our relationship is definitely strained. And I'm probably going to wind up taking care of him within the next five years at the rate he's going.
And sure enough, my brother came just as fast as he could, but even getting here within the same 24 hours, her condition had worsened to the point where she could barely see or speak.