Disturbing FC Behavior

[CoffeeBuns]

I never had any issues with FCs. It took me awhile to find one that I fit in but they were never what you described except that some of them always stayed in their clicks of friends.

[Themarvin]

It can easy go both ways... most do not realize it can actually take quite the effort to actually have a FC.

[Jandor]

This kinda proves the "ffxiv players can't handle slight disagreements" point.

I dunno man, if I was at a party and some dude started randomly blathering on about how the cake just isn't up to his high standards I'd be pretty weirded out.

[Arillyn]

It can be difficult to find an FC that you meld with and feel you fit in. At the same time, it isn't all up to the people already established in the FC to make that happen. It's a two-way street. For example, the FC I am in - we never, ever do recruitment. People from our FC have been invited because they met someone in the FC and had fun, didn't have an FC and were asked if they'd like to join. Most though who join are friends of friends, family, etc. Sometimes we are super chatty. Other times there isn't a lot being said. It all just depends on what everyone is doing, moods, etc.

However, I have noticed a pattern of people who join our FC and end up leaving - they hardly ever interact with us. We'll say hello when they log in and they may respond but often don't at all. When people are going to run something and ask in the FC if anyone wants to join in (expert, raids, maps, extremes, etc) the people that joined but end up leaving never join in, even when we specifically ask them by name if they'd like to join.

And it's fine if people want to join the FC and keep to themselves. We have those too. We still say hi and talk with them when they do speak. We'll run things with them if they want to join in or need help. I've just noticed the pattern of the few people who do join and then leave, never actually engage with us even when we try to engage with them.

[Sparrowsong]

This is pretty socially unacceptable behaviour in any setting. Methinks the problem is you.

No it is more like you have dictorial mindset .if you can't handle disagreements then don't invite people to fc

[Aldath]

This is normal in pretty much every MMO though: enter a medium-big sized guild and it will already have a clique that will only interact with others by saying "Hi, welcome back" or inside events.
There's also a roughly 85% chance that there will be an "UwU hi guysss!" "girl" that is often the center of attention and once every two days will have a new issue that makes her very sad.

Honestly, some of the chillest people I've met in MMOs are from small guilds or randoms in map/instances. Heck, I met my wife through a super small guild, we were friends for months, I thought she was a dude until the guild finally decided to use Discord.

[DiaDeem]

It goes both ways

This.
People will join an FC, say nothing and then leave after some time or stop logging entirely. People won't always click, that's just how things are.

[Sindele]

Often people who don't mesh were "invited to the party" because nobody fully realized the extent to which they're incapable of holding normal conversations without turning into passive-aggressive, condescending, neurotic, or permanently-negative messes.

Ultimately, there's only ever one common factor in all the failed interpersonal relationships in your life. Refuse to acknowledge that at your own peril.

E: Wait, 2021? Who even resurrected this. Why have you tricked me.

[Daddyslittlevampire]

Honestly when i get my bestie in id rather just have a fc for the two of us, just because how people react if your not in their little box but lets be honest that's kinda the point in fcs and groups to segrate people based on who and what they enjoy.

Lets face it any games guild/freecompany or group is basically how it is in highschool you got the jocks all in one spot, the preppy kids in another, the stoners here, the geeks here the nerds here.. and then you got the goths at this table and the table I'm in the emos lets face it. Humans will never get along with outsiders from their own personal taste and personality.



People and game makers assume that they can enforce interactions between 2 very different types but that isn't going to happen ever period its a naive hope people wish for that will never happen. Two different fish in a small tank will never get along enforcing this typically ends with one if not both fish dead

[ChonkGoblinSuprem]

Going to a party and complaining about the cake sure is a choice.