Disturbing FC Behavior

[Chie_M]

-Imagine you are at a party, you start a conversation with some people. For the sake of argument its about cake. Everyone has a collective love of cake but, you think cake could be more diverse in its colors, or larger in size, or presentation. The response you get among other things is "ahh". What? What does that mean are you scared? Should we get you some help? Do you need some milk? Did your brain turn off?

This is pretty socially unacceptable behaviour in any setting. Methinks the problem is you.

[iVolke]

This is pretty socially unacceptable behaviour in any setting. Methinks the problem is you.

This kinda proves the "ffxiv players can't handle slight disagreements" point.

[Chie_M]

This kinda proves the "ffxiv players can't handle slight disagreements" point.

Eh. It's up to you to interpret social conventions that way.

[Jandor]

This kinda proves the "ffxiv players can't handle slight disagreements" point.

I dunno man, if I was at a party and some dude started randomly blathering on about how the cake just isn't up to his high standards I'd be pretty weirded out.

[Arillyn]

It can be difficult to find an FC that you meld with and feel you fit in. At the same time, it isn't all up to the people already established in the FC to make that happen. It's a two-way street. For example, the FC I am in - we never, ever do recruitment. People from our FC have been invited because they met someone in the FC and had fun, didn't have an FC and were asked if they'd like to join. Most though who join are friends of friends, family, etc. Sometimes we are super chatty. Other times there isn't a lot being said. It all just depends on what everyone is doing, moods, etc.

However, I have noticed a pattern of people who join our FC and end up leaving - they hardly ever interact with us. We'll say hello when they log in and they may respond but often don't at all. When people are going to run something and ask in the FC if anyone wants to join in (expert, raids, maps, extremes, etc) the people that joined but end up leaving never join in, even when we specifically ask them by name if they'd like to join.

And it's fine if people want to join the FC and keep to themselves. We have those too. We still say hi and talk with them when they do speak. We'll run things with them if they want to join in or need help. I've just noticed the pattern of the few people who do join and then leave, never actually engage with us even when we try to engage with them.

[Sparrowsong]

This is pretty socially unacceptable behaviour in any setting. Methinks the problem is you.

No it is more like you have dictorial mindset .if you can't handle disagreements then don't invite people to fc