I am not wanting to be "that person" but if you have nothing but problems in FC's, maybe the problem is you.

Not all FC's are the same, I have been in a few and never felt like an outsider in any of them. Do I "fit" in all of them, no, which is why we parted company. The one I am in currently, I certainly am not a founding member by any stretch of the imagination, but I think we have always been friendly and welcoming. There are people in the FC that do their own thing, or are not comfy around people, but they are just as welcome as anyone else, and everyone tries to help out in whatever way they can.

Maybe you joined one too large, or too small. you seriously need to determine what YOU are looking for, and go from there. but if everything always ends the same way, my thoughts are its not the FC....