I've always found the FFXIV community to be pretty difficult to engage with. To many, everything is a potential issue, a difference in opinion - even in regards to fictional characters - is the worst crime one can commit and there's an unhealthy obsession with trying to use the game itself as a platform for speaking about complicated issues. In my experience, it's far more common over on the North American servers compared to the European or Japanese servers which tend to be quieter.

I ended up settling for a two man FC which suits me just fine, though I do miss how much easier it was to organise group activities back when I played WoW. I've encountered a lot more in the way of broken promises, flaky individuals and a lack of commitment to one's goals even when it comes to casual content such as treasure maps.