Disturbing FC Behavior

[SeaFoam]

So I've been in clans on other games, seen many rise and fall. Even though mmo clans are somewhat different the same problems still plague them. Today I will talk about the biggest problem I see in FCs.

FCs with pre-established friend groups.
1. Friend groups have a predisposition to show hostility to outsiders.

-At first people are nice when recruiting but, if you try to have a conversation that goes beyond the phrases "I need help" or "let's do dailies" the problems start. Quickly you find that they just wanted a lot of people in the guild. Not for socializing, just for the numbers.

2. Here is where the the passive aggression starts, if not out right aggression.

-So you try to conversate but unfortunately your attempts may include things like: why are so many races 90% human and 10% cat ears? Or what do you think would be cool for endwalker?

-Beyond this, going into the realm of idol chatting, or having an opinion about something. You may have heard it before, people saying ff14 players are nice till you disagree or think out loud at all.

-Friend groups by default have an us vs them mentality. You may say "that's not true me and my friends help people all the time" or "we aren't toxic". Think on this, there are FCs that try to absorb as many people as possible and once you are in they don't want to socialize. They view other players that aren't associated with their friend group as a burden or a problem. These burdensome new arrivals are then treated to passive aggressive comments to publicize their alienation from the group.

3. Everyone has seen this

-Imagine you are at a party, you start a conversation with some people. For the sake of argument its about cake. Everyone has a collective love of cake but, you think cake could be more diverse in its colors, or larger in size, or presentation. The response you get among other things is "ahh". What? What does that mean are you scared? Should we get you some help? Do you need some milk? Did your brain turn off?

-Things like this signal to the others if they have not already been avid when displaying their distain that:
-This guy is a weirdo
-We should not associate with this one
-He/She is causing problems we all must act like this person is crazy

4. Conclusion

-You can have a friend group its fine but, don't shun people you invited to the party. Why invite them at all unless you enjoy spreading as the kids say, "bad vibes".

-Stick to your groups and remember that if you want to invite people to your FC you all must be welcoming even after the welcoming process is done. Don't perpetuate the culture of fake positivity ff14 has become known for. Be open to new things, ideas, and people. I'll end with a quote from an anime you might know "If you are always looking down on everyone, you never see your own weaknesses".

Edit years later:
I wrote this post a long time ago, when my writing wasn't as refined. I obviously knew how cringe and absurd some parts of it were. At the time I was stressed and angry about a lot of things but, mainly how "friends" treated me. Some people agreed with the post and some people just said that everything was my fault. To those people that said I was the problem in a very harsh way. I would say, I bet you don't talk to yourself that way. If I believed it every time someone said that it was my fault I would be in a much worse place. This post bothered me and I wanted to delete it. Unfortunately, that is not an option. Some time after the horrible events of this post, fc hopping, and ultimately leaving the game. I returned, and found an fc that was full of friendly people and for the first time, all the way into shadow bringers, I had fun. After the expansion I left for a long time then returned again. I stay to myself now, and rarely engage with people for my own well being. I'm never going to look at this thread again or be bothered by it. I don't care what anyone writes in the thread I've been called worse just for trying out white mage.