Quote Originally Posted by van_arn View Post
My suggestion is to stop caring and just tank. People are quick to latch onto anyone else being the problem.

Don't worry about outing yourself as a new tank, either; if people don't like something, let them tell you. Stay undercover as long as you can, run dungeons repeatedly, and eventually you'll be able to make it all the way through without someone spotting you as new.

Don't underestimate your party's ambivalence. Most of them just want to get in and get out; use that to your advantage and strive to be the most invisible, unseen tank you can possibly be while learning the content. Not great, not bad. Just there.

Do your homework, though; read tooltips, a guide or two. Don't get too deep into guides until your tank is caught up to your other roles.
And you misunderstand the whole anxiety issue. It's easy to say "stop caring and just do your job / stop worrying". The deal for many - actual - anxious people is: They are likely quite aware of all that. They are aware that in retrospec all nervousness and panic was exaggerated. Depending on which degree the "anxiety" is, you just can't control it. You can self-suggest yourself it's fine, but it may or may not be enough. For "outsiders"/bystanders, the whole deal with anxiety seems quite absurd (and sometimes so it feels for the persons affected ironically), yet if it were for them so easy to dismiss, they would easily be able to "cure" themselves.

But I agree, normally all nervousness lessens or can disappear over time. Mistakes happen, especially if you don't run (or want to) run each dungeon ad nauseum, and nobody will likely care in the long run.