Quote Originally Posted by Awha View Post
I agree and that is why I think players should use the vote kick feature more yet the game and community seem against such things. Just recently on our servers NN, someone was silently kicked from their group and they mentioned in NN they were removed. When I started to ask questions as to why they thought they were removed they mentioned that they had "tankxiety" as a level 54 tank, I mentioned they should take a pill for that NN overall got pissy with me and told me I was being rude. Cause apparently doing single pulls as a level 54 is still considered standard and okay cause they may get anxious. When questioned as to why would they play a role that makes them anxious they said cause they enjoy it. Which baffles me, if one enjoys something shouldn't they strive to do it well. Who wants to enjoy doing something poorly.
At level 50 something it's entirely possible to have only done maybe 6 dngns TOTAL. Source: Literally my PLD. I get massive tanxiety entering into dungeons because having only participated in like 6 total, I still don't have a proper rotation, I may not know the dngn well enough to pull more than 3-6 mobs at a time, and there's a massive expectation to be "the best" as a tank. Also telling someone to "take a pill" is considered rude. It might not seem so to you, you might have the most compassionate of intentions, but it is. Tanxiety isn't an anxiety disorder, it's not something you just take meds for and voila, you're better - it's a normal response to doing something new that you *want* to enjoy and that you don't want to be seen as a *failure* by others.