If you have to invent stuff to do, you need time to unplug. It's not fun if it's a choir! Alt's, and I have many, only overburden you more, and burn you out faster once you feel obligated to keep up with each of them. Stepjam is right, if guilds/people are quick to reject you, or even talk down to you in authoritative way, you are best to be rid of them.