Is there any tanks that feel like your playing a tank and not a DPS ?

[Shurrikhan]

Is there any tanks that feel like your playing a tank and not a DPS ?

In XIV? Not really.

Just go for whichever 'DPS + some mitigation skills' job has the aesthetic or apm flow that most clicks with you.

If you're looking for the ability to clutch out a fight in a manner besides just dealing faintly more average dps over time, though... PLD will likely be the most obviously and iconically attractive, though WAR can produce about as much support over time at less cost to output.