It's been a long time since I've started a thread on lodestone, but I had a really nice experience with other players recently and want to share the love.
I'm a pretty simple DPS main. Specifically, black mage so I'm very much in that selfish caster class and whatnot. I'd wanted to try dark knight years ago because of all the cool stuff I'd heard about the job quests, but FFXIV is my first MMO in-general. So... I had zero experience in understanding what it meant to be a tank or healer comparatively. My first try (again, years back--I was full sprout) I went to Haukke Manor and had no idea what I was doing. Told my party I was new but I botched it pretty hard due to having no idea at all how the job moved, what strategies I should adapt, etc. Although initially patient, I got the definite sense that by the end of the run my fellow players had gotten frustrated and left without saying a word when they'd initially been chatty.
I felt pretty terrible, and wound up afraid to touch tanks at all for months afterward.
Eventually though, I gave it another shot. Tried looking up instructions a few times online, watched how other tanks behaved, asked around, stuff like that. Allowed myself a level skip, read through all the skills so I'd know exactly what everything did, and mapped my hotbars out so everything was organized according to what the move did. I practiced soloing dungeons a few times along with practicing as DPS so I could use other tanks as examples, I got into PVP, and I killed a horrific amount of wildlife across Hydaelyn.
Today I finally tried working with other players again, but instead of going for a low level dungeon I went with Skalla and Ghimlyt Dark since I know those pretty well. I admitted to being a new tank when I went in, and while I don't know formal rotations at this stage--I made sure I was directing mobs away from the rest of the party, keeping effects up tied to damage given and received, refresh provoke or grit if needed, using single target and multi-target attacks sensibly, etc.
I definitely wasn't perfect. I'm used to following tanks around and at one point somehow got turned around in Ghimlyt and was essentially running in circles surrounded by fire and battle animations because my camera hit a weird angle. But I didn't mess up the mechs of the fights themselves. Second run on Ghimlyt I asked if there was anything I could do better, and was told I needed to make sure enemies didn't slip past me but was otherwise doing a great job. Made a point to work on that and wound up with three commends.
I still don't know if I've got the rotation down, but it seriously meant a lot that not only was I able to largely keep up in more advanced dungeons--the other players were really encouraging. I wasn't sure if I'd be getting side-eye for that level skip, but it helped me organize moves better and use them properly. There were even a couple of bosses where I was one of two players still alive and got through!
(Once with a dragoon, once with a healer, and one time wound up short a DPS whose connection failed. First case happened because of players failing to avoid the drill in Ghimlyt while the other seemed like normal difficulties with those Garlean twins.)
Basically, this experience really reminded me of how much I love the FFXIV community and gave me much more confidence in a role I'm still getting used to. If anyone has any tips for rotation or things to watch out for, I'd definitely love some advice! There are still bits where I'm not sure on lingo even after this long lol, I know tanks gotta pop cooldowns and that popping cooldowns has to do with effects and the time between uses... but I'm not sure whether I'm technically doing it already or not.