No, no one should put up with abuse. However I do think you were unlucky with your parties, as the majority of people are pretty decent and have patience.
Also it depends on what party you joined, people have higher expectations with farm/reclear parties than just a practice one. However this doesn't give a party an excuse to be toxic.
If you get a toxic party just leave it and try another, there are loads of PFs for Shiva Unreal atm.