Quote Originally Posted by Yuella View Post
Parties sometimes want tanks to pull big and newcomers may not be comfortable with it
Parties sometimes want healers to dps and newcomers may not be comfortable with it.
Parties sometimes want good aoe rotations and newcomers may not be comfortable with it.
If you don't want to pull big, tell them. They'll either leave it at that (most likely) or kick you (rarely happens because getting a new tank takes longer than finishing a dungeon with single pulls). This whole "they may want this or that and it could be uncomfortable for you" is just needlessly feeding "tankxiety". Just like all this talk about how a tank needs to know the whole dungeon by heart, lead the way, know how capable a party is at a glance etc.
There will always be players that want a different playstyle from you regardless of role. But the solution to that is really quite easy: communicate. It's not that difficult to simply tell your party that you're not quite used to tanking yet and will keep pulls smaller. I honestly can't remember someone ever getting salty over it or even demand a kick.
The general reaction is as simple as "ok".