Ok, so i looked up your character. As of the last update by the system, you were using the archeoskin set of gear(with your tools one step better). This is the level 51 set of "catch-up" gear for people who didnt go through upgrading to the best set of level 50 gear. That means the stats on it are good, but not best(that would be the artisan set) of the level 50 sets. As you said, your stats arent quite good enough to jump straight to the level 61 set, so you need to do an incremental upgrade first. As others have said, you could use yellow scrips to buy the level 58 set(the adept set). But you said you wanted to make your gear, so ill give you a path for that. You said you can make anything up to level 58, so lets do that. Youre going to skip the holy rainbow set, and jump to the ramie one. You dont need to make everything though. Try just making the chest piece(Ramie Doublet of Crafting - 55 craft and 16 control more then your current piece if we exclude melds). Now you arent going to meld these, because theyre temporary gear. From there, try to make the easy level 60 one(Chimerical Felt Doublet of Crafting - which is 20% better then the ramie one). These are both weaver recipes, so you could do the needle or sewing wheel at a higher level to make them easier. From there, you jump to the level 61 "catch-up" set with a Bloodhempen Doublet of Crafting(you guessed it, another 20% better stats then the previous step). If you make it this far, this is when id upgrade the rest of your sharable gear(pants, hat, gloves, belt, shoes, jewelry). We want to skip as many of these as we can for the inbetween steps because they only give us one stat where the tools and chest upgrade multiple stats. But the bloodhempen set is where the rest of your gear starts to give multi-stat boosts. And there you have it, a path to upgrading your own gear to the point you can make all the things.

Side note: If you want to take a short cut, get enough mats to make the bloodhempen chest twice, and the griffin talon needle twice. Dont try to HQ, just finish both of them in normal quality using every trick you can. Then equip them both, and try again to get the HQ versions(probly needle first, since its a lower level recipe). The BH chest in normal quality has twice the stats your current one does(then add 10% to that for HQ). The griffin needle(assuming you have the same level tools for each class - i got to see your carpenter ones) in normal quality is 20% better then what you have now, and if you can get the hq version that goes up another 10%. Once you have that base, making the rest of the stuff should be easier. Good luck!