The all others you are talking about are exaggerating the problem.
Each server has 5040 plots, which is going to increase up to 6300 with the upcoming new housing area in future patch.
So depending on the server these are enough to give 70-100% of players on each server their own housing plot, and there a lot of people who simply dont care about housing, so you could say on the medium and small populated servers there are enough of houses for those who want a house and i could even see a lot of plots in twintania right now in the mist being empty.
This problem persists only on large server and during the virus pandemic, due to the demolotion being cancelled for some time. Give it some time and OP and you will be able to get a house you want, i never see the same people complaining over this housing system i guess they got what they wanted anyway.