Embarrassing confessions-

[Liam_Harper]

I'll add another one to the mix. This is a bit of a hard one...

I have never cleared an Extreme or higher fight while it was current content. I did not do ARR Extremes until SB when I could solo them. I have only done a couple of Extreme HW fights because I was dragged kicking and screaming.

Why, though? It's a bit of an explanation...

I have tons of social anxiety issues.

Nothing embarrassing or to be ashamed of at all. You'd be surprised how many people are in the same boat. I was very fortunate myself to stumble across a guild purely for players with social anxiety 9 years ago in WoW which made all the difference and is a big reason I still play MMO's and have come as far as I have. We're still around and branched out into ff14 a few years back, have beaten every EX and are dipping into Savage next week.
I'd give FC's another go, even just having company can break the loneliness. It's quite possible there are FC's aimed towards those with anxiety on your data-center, or even just a friendly group you find you click with.

Can understand what you mean with openers on guides or Party Finder descriptions. It makes little sense to me first time too. Guides in particular are aimed towards experienced Savage players who are optimizing their gameplay. The majority of players are not glancing at a class guide, seeing a 30 step opener, going "cool, got it" and pulling it off flawlessly on every boss after. Most players rotations are all over the place. It's normal, we aren't machines.
Party Finder ...well, PF is PF. A lot of people turn up and don't know what the description means exactly and just try to wing it and pick it up along the way. A nice FC group is a much better place to start out though. Some practice groups will explain, but Party Finder is often a mess where no one wants to discuss strats or work as a team.

I'd recommend working up the courage to give the guy at work a poke ingame. It's scary, but who knows where it might lead. You have to take that first step to get there.

Hope things work out though, take care.

[Anienai]

Ran a lvling roulette as a WAR and my boyfriend as WHM and went and mass pulled everything in the first room only to realise I had forgotten to pop tank stance and caused my boyfriend to die twice >.<

Curious Gorge forgives you.


Spent a decent amount of time crafting the wrong gear for the levequest.

[Leyza]

I've played since 2011 and still have yet to feel sure in when to pop buffs on DRG and BLM. Both of which I've played since 1.0.

[Meillquei]

I get kind of jealous when I see a character with all jobs at max level because it's something I feel I will never achieve.

There's some jobs and roles that just don't click with me even after reading guides, which for me is mainly healers and black mage.

So I do not use these jobs in group content and level them via FATEs because I'm scared of failing and holding my group back.

[Esmoire]

I get kind of jealous when I see a character with all jobs at max level because it's something I feel I will never achieve.

There's some jobs and roles that just don't click with me even after reading guides, which for me is mainly healers and black mage.

So I do not use these jobs in group content and level them via FATEs because I'm scared of failing and holding my group back.

Just do what I do and level them in PvP! After you join Frontline, you can change to a different job than the one you queued as, and still get XP for it. MSQ roulette as well I feel is almost like not playing the job at all since nothing there seems to be too interested in fighting the player.

I likewise couldn't get into BLM, and I'm glad I didn't actually have to play it to get it to 80. Also got GNB to 80 through PvP though I ended up playing it after-the-fact.

[Anarnee]

I have been leveling all of my my secondary characters jobs to 80 recently and when I was leveling DNC I noticed while doing 70+ content, something about by dmg wasn't right. I was doing great in 60 or below.

I go to queue up for Qitana Ravel... and I get the message that my item level is not high enough... and I'm so confused.

I go through all my gear from right side to left side, everything is Augmented Scaeven gear... Cept my weapon which is still the level 60 Augmented Shire.

OOOPS That makes sense. That's why my damage is garbage.

A few months later I'm working on MCH.

Same thing happens again. I notice my damage is crummy in level 70+ content, but I had just been doing really good in the level 60 content.

Go to queue up for Qitana Ravel...

...Item level is not high enough.

Again I am confused. I thought all my gear was good.

All of it was Augmented Scaevan... Except the MOST IMPORTANT PIECE...

I'm sitting there with a level 60 Shire weapon at leave 75 again.

[Zomkei]

i joined an e7s clear group to help a friend clear when i already had several times before. i know the fight very well, but for some reason i couldn’t play that day and i ended up being the trap. i left the party willingly with an apology, but i still feel embarrassed over it.

[Ceridwenae]

As a noob archer, I wouldn't use Quick Nock because I hated the animation (I got over it).

Also when I first started I wanted to be a black mage (which was why I had archer first, back when it needed to be 15 levels or some such of it), and when I got to being a THM, I constantly couldn't figure out why no mana - I technically knew about Transpose, but every time I needed to use it I forgot.

Oh, also, have let Husband-as-Tank die when healing as didn't realise function keys corresponded to the party list and was manually trying to click on him in mobs in dungeons. He has forgiven me.

[FelixDewott]

I'm gonna throw in my own embarrassments and hope I don't get laughed at.

When I'm playing MCH, I sometimes screw up my own rotations and skill set-ups or sometimes pop a potion I never meant to pop. I do have muscle memory, but sometimes it actively works against me.

[Avidria]

Bit of a vent confession, if you can call it that. I absolutely hate making giant pulls as a tank, and years of dealing with nonsense in WoW and here to a lesser extent means my trust for pug healers is, in general, extremely low. Even if I know the healer, it's still not something I'm particularly comfortable with. It feels like I'm just surrounded by mobs and praying the dps and heals are all good enough that I'm not literally sitting there waiting to die, even if I know they probably are good enough. Crap happens. And it sucks.

The temptation to just let people deal with mobs on their own when they pull ahead of me or try to rescue yeet me even when I'm literally already sprinting as fast as I can is very high.

The only reason I even play tanks anymore is to work towards the Amaro. At least they have some neat glamour too. :/