As a healer main I quite love it when RDM, SMN, or PLD's help me out when things are going pear shaped. I had a Copied Factory run the other day where my co-healer couldn't stay alive for anything, so I had to carry the bulk of the healing while trying to raise them and a couple other people who bit the dust. We had three RDM and a SMN and while I was hard raising people some of them would help chip in with heals and the occasional dualcast raise and it honestly took a lot of stress off of my shoulders. So long as the RDM or PLD isn't sacrificing anything by helping out I really don't care if they do so. My ego isn't so big that I'd take it as some spurious insult either and frankly I question the maturity of anyone who does take it that harshly. So long as the RDM or PLD isn't being rude, who cares?