Valentines day event fail

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Does he actually need to have some explicit ideas how a partner should be...? When the three 'love-agents' and the adventurer ask him questions, the tutor himself wonders, how he should have such clear opinions when he hasn't yet met somebody special.

(I myself had years ago no clear concepts how my future husband should be - and I wouldn't have expected my best friend to become exactly that person. Thus, I find the plan of Mister-Elezen to be rather a concept that makes people a tad too blind for other beings around them.)

And honestly, the only reason why I didn't vote for Bert was the reason behind the suggestion of grabbing a new hobby. If you do something purely out of the intention to fish for a partner, there's no guarantee that you either like the activity or the person you met because of it. Sure, people can be lucky and enjoy both aspects quite successfully, but I wouldn't ever recommend my own hobbies to somebody only because of any dating-adventages.

I dont think he - or anyone - needs an explicit idea about how their partner should be in the sense of looks, skills/job, character etc. no. But I do think that he needs to have at least a certain idea about things that are important to him in a relationship - does he want kids, would he be willing to work less, is it important to him that his partner shares his intrests, is he looking for someone who can show him new things etc.
To be honest: Reading his (german) dialouge I was seriously wondering why he even wants a relationship - one reason could obviously be that he doesnt want to come into an empty house after work anymore, but another one could also be social pressure or the idea that getting married is just what you do at a certain age, which isnt a good reason for finding someone.
(I had no clear concept about how my partner should be either, but I'm certain of my own values and ides for the future and I knew that I couldnt really be with someone who didnt share certain of those values and intrests.)

I agree with you on the hobby-problem (worst case: hes now stuck with a hobby and a partner he doesnt like), but I felt that he had so little of an idea of what he wanted out of a relationship and from a partner that thats something he has to at least think about before going on a dating spree, potentially breaking hearts and complicating work-relations just to try and find someone he clicks with.