@rachcouture, so far, your words sound like "do not dare to speak here about what is unpleasant to me and does not apply to my experience."
As already mentioned here, any system has flaws, and it takes a lot of willpower to change this. Do not try to imagine the situation as if it were my personal, unique negative experience. Not. It doesn’t work like that. Denial, gagging, distortion, and ignoring do not work.
We will talk here about what is important to us.