That's ridiculous. Regardless of your position at least one healer should be prioritizing you. No excuses. Especially if you've got one of the tanks.

Unfortunately the attitude this expac seems to be 'you're not the leader anymore, just a meatshield for bosses and for whatever we bring to you.' And while I have no patience for the entitled attitudes of the past where tanks were concerned, this is just as bad if not worse.

I feel stupid for even suggesting this, but perhaps make a macro for Provoke with a sound effect that lets the party know what tank you're taking. The healers really should be paying better attention but I've gotten the damage blinders on before too so I can't really condemn anyone. Or just type in chat 'hey, I'm on the other tank, can I get some heals?'

In any case, thank you for your service. o7