The average groups have over 1K pulls (wipes) and spend +120 hours before they have their first clear for Ultimate. A lot of groups aren't even able to clear it.


Also the worlds first groups in Savage. The reason clear it first week is because they raid up to 10 hours a day if not longer. The majority of groups clear it later (the people with jobs and can't play the entire day), there's also more info going out and people talking about strats and mechanics.


Anyway start of with Extreme and don't worry about Savage & Ultimate yet. EX is the easiest end game content and is intended to get you used to deal with mechanics while keeping high uptime and following your rotation correctly. EX is (usually) very forgiving and you can make some mistakes without causing a wipe.
Try to find a raiding FC (those are usually more 'casual friendly') or a casual (new player friendly) static and start with EX.
Watch guides and finish Titania & Innocence, don't use PF though, try to go with FC / static first. These are 'old fights' and PF is usually for farming the mount and require you to have cleared it already. After that do Hades EX.


When you can clear those 3 fights without failing or messing up try Eden Savage.


Check out the Balance Discord for info and tips on your job and BiS gear (BiS gear, BiS materies, max stat food and pots do help a lot and are usually required by most groups).
And don't have fear to mess up, everybody needs to learn. You don't want to know how many times I messed up the Evil Earth mechanic in Titan Savage before I got it right.


Last do have fun, I've seen a lot of people who are stressed out of their minds, are annoyed as hell and are constantly shouting, swearing and what not when they wipe.

A game is supposed to be fun, if I don't have fun I stop that game and do something else.