Right? I felt the same way, thankfully the oddball ones like A Relic Reborn and Hildi are just things people try out anyway. I had some friends take me through all of Alex and the HW ex's and it was really fun seeing all the stuff play out for my first time.
Then when SHB came out I still hadn't cleared Tsukuyomi EX and Suzaku EX so I did them with my raid friends it was also great.
I think in that way everyone knows what they're talking about and can respect people's time doing it. I enjoy the NN when it's a fun community but the bar is so low to enter you find people being actual gits in it filling a slot for an actual mentors who can help if the others are busy.
There are screenshots of other NN's on TalesfromDF subreddit of a NN kick chain going on and it's just ridiculous.