OP I dare you to do as a dancer does for a prolonged period of time then say whether those movements repeated over and over are soft.

I come from a family of dancers both male and female with my sister being a professional now choreographer. The men she's danced with and directed, even doing some of the more softer, graceful movements (especially in ballet), are some of the most masculine and fit guys I've ever met who are comfortable enough in their own skin to perform in that manner, and they love it.