The difference between WoW and FF14

[Jybril]

I have not had real hardcore, rude and negative experiences in all my 6 years in the game but the forums...Another story.

Beats me, never seen or heard from a GM. I know how to behave myself and I mostly keep to myself anyway.

In this forum? I got one infraction so far because apparently discussing and giving advice about a players performance in a cold, mathematical manner is considered "discrimination against a portion of the playerbase". I mean I could have understood if they infracted me for referencing the website & program that shall not be named but discrimination? ... Guess the Mod just picked the first option available in order to be done with it.
Since then I assume that every post of mine is reported and keep out of any serious discussions about specific players.

My friend posted in the "Duty Finder woes"
topic, in which a player was upset about the bards speed buff and they had gotten incredibly angry.
He said something along the lines of "I'm scared the guy will find and kill us with the amount of anger"
and that netted him a ban for 10 days. The forums are incredibly sensitive and you must take great care about what you say here.
I try my hardest to be polite but even then, I somewhat shy away from serious discussions as it'll land me a ban for disagreeing.

[Makeda]

My friend posted in the "Duty Finder woes"
topic, in which a player was upset about the bards speed buff and they had gotten incredibly angry.
He said something along the lines of "I'm scared the guy will find and kill us with the amount of anger"
and that netted him a ban for 10 days.

A whole lot of people managed to respond to the post you’re referring to there without getting bans. I am actually a little surprised you don’t see why the example you posted would net a ban... it’s a bit obvious if that is an actual exact quote.

[Felyni]

I've never had a bad experience in WoW. I actually really enjoy the community, they're fun and nice and real chatty OW!
FFXIV is the exact same experience for me(minus the OW chattiness).
If I talk in party chat in either game, I either get replies, or I get ignored. Same thing happens in WoW and in FFXIV.
Except, in WoW I know I can say "adult" words when I mess up/die, without fear of offending anyone, so there is that. lol

HOWEVER. BIG.THING.TO.NOTE= I play on an PVE server.

Once you hit anything PVP related(in any game, esp pvp focused ones , the community 90% of the time goes to dirt, and everyone gets blocked lol.

[Granyala]

Once you hit anything PVP related(in any game, esp pvp focused ones , the community 90% of the time goes to dirt, and everyone gets blocked lol.

The chats in Battlegrounds were far more violent and fun than any actual PvP action that occurred

[SerLuke]

Beats me, never seen or heard from a GM. I know how to behave myself and I mostly keep to myself anyway.

In this forum? I got one infraction so far because apparently discussing and giving advice about a players performance in a cold, mathematical manner is considered "discrimination against a portion of the playerbase". I mean I could have understood if they infracted me for referencing the website & program that shall not be named but discrimination? ... Guess the Mod just picked the first option available in order to be done with it.
Since then I assume that every post of mine is reported and keep out of any serious discussions about specific players.

I meant in game you said something about not wanting to utilize party/alliance chat out of fear for getting reported I’m just confused where that is coming from exactly if you’ve never interacted with a GM?

[Granyala]

I meant in game you said something about not wanting to utilize party/alliance chat out of fear for getting reported I’m just confused where that is coming from exactly if you’ve never interacted with a GM?

Reports from others that are move vocal than I am.

[SerLuke]

Reports from others that are move vocal than I am.

What did they say exactly? How was it worded? I’m really curious as to see what is causing this fear, do you have screenshots?

[Skolopendrokot]

I play FFXIV for about three years and its community is the best for me. I've played a few MMORPGs in the past, but their players weren't so nice, friendly and helpful. I'm not able to even count how many times somebody did something for me even though we didn't know each other. Now I am this kind of player myself - I like to help newbies and guide them. Of course, there are toxic players and bobs (like I call new, unskilled ones), but I just don't care about the first ones and try to help the second ones.

But about sensitivity... A few days ago I was talking to a guy I met ig. We were playing together for a few weeks, so I just decided to ask him about his real name. I didn't even think that it would be a big deal, it's totally normal and neutral question for me. But he was surprised. He told me if I'm not afraid about asking about such things because they can be offensive for people who don't feel a man or a woman. I can understand that someone doesn't feel comfortable with their name, but it's a bit ridiculous to me. I mean... you can always tell someone that you don't want to talk about your real name, you really don't have to be angry and report him. I think that some people are just too sentitive.

[Jybril]

I play FFXIV for about three years and its community is the best for me. I've played a few MMORPGs in the past, but their players weren't so nice, friendly and helpful. I'm not able to even count how many times somebody did something for me even though we didn't know each other. Now I am this kind of player myself - I like to help newbies and guide them. Of course, there are toxic players and bobs (like I call new, unskilled ones), but I just don't care about the first ones and try to help the second ones.

But about sensitivity... A few days ago I was talking to a guy I met ig. We were playing together for a few weeks, so I just decided to ask him about his real name. I didn't even think that it would be a big deal, it's totally normal and neutral question for me. But he was surprised. He told me if I'm not afraid about asking about such things because they can be offensive for people who don't feel a man or a woman. I can understand that someone doesn't feel comfortable with their name, but it's a bit ridiculous to me. I mean... you can always tell someone that you don't want to talk about your real name, you really don't have to be angry and report him. I think that some people are just too sentitive.

Wait, he got mad because you asked for his name and he didn't wanna tell because he doesn't identify as a gender? What's gender have to do with a name...?
I have never in my life ever heard of anyone being offended by asking them their name.
I thought asking for peoples names meant you wanna get close to them and be their friend, not offend them.
What is this world coming to!?

[Granyala]

What did they say exactly? How was it worded? I’m really curious as to see what is causing this fear, do you have screenshots?

Nope. I fully admit that my paranoia is founded on hearsay as I myself find it very difficult to believe that a GM would take action against logical and constructive criticism but to be frank: better safe than sorry. I value my cat far too much in order to risk her well being.

I know for a fact that the widely used term "trash tier" is ban-able in forums.

That's because it is an insult.
Plain and simple. Calling another player "trash" is non negotiably (I just made that word up :< ) crossing the line.

If you want to refer to bad players use the term "weak players" or "below average players". You'll say the same thing w/o insulting half the community.

I have never in my life ever heard of anyone being offended by asking them their name.

I wouldn't be offended of course but I would deny you an answer nonetheless.
I do not share RL data with people I do not trust and it takes a lot of time for me to trust you.