I think what would be good for SE to implement as a compromise would be a victory screen and/or chat log message that came up after zoning out of a dungeon that shows two things: your personal dps for that run, and the average dps for your job in the dungeon over a recent time period like 2 weeks or a month. This way it lets people know around where they sit relative to others, but doesn't give any of this info while still in the dungeon or gives your personal dps to the other party members to help avoid the parse shaming that SE wants to avoid.

This is a useful compromise for two reasons. One, it gives all players including those on console a way to see how they're doing and it keeps the information private. Two, it still allows them to keep their current policies on 3rd party parsers and harassment, because players would still not have official access to other people's numbers unless they chose to share them so reporting people for parse shaming wouldn't meaningfully change.