Quote Originally Posted by burjayxtreme View Post
I’ve recently noticed how cruel some people can be on this game.. when I first started playing everyone was really friendly and willing to help others. Now if you get caught trying to enjoy the game or make mistakes you are cursed out, kicked and shunned.
I hope by enjoying the game, you don't mean the "lul I play how I want". Nobody has anything against other's enjoying the game as long as their enjoyment doesn't mean others suffer.

Been around since ARR beta and at first, I sucked. I frequently forgot Lucid Dream and ended up standing around because I was oomp, I didn't bodyslam the tanks when I had aggro and instead ran around, I miscalculated the range of my spells, I was sure Sprint won't work in combat and so didn't use it to dodge stuff/ catch up to others, always stood at the end of the world because I'm ranged so I need to stand super far away, failed several mechanics in leveling dungeons and whatnot.
Yup, I definitely sucked and I was fodder for the "Tales from the Duty Finder" thread. But back then everyone was new, it was cute and funny to suck.
But I'm not a lv 20something CNJ anymore, we're not 2 weeks into launch anymore, I learned either by reading tooltips, others giving me pointers or (god forbid) reading/ watching guides. If I did the same things I did back then in.. say.. 50+ content, I would certainly deserve a couple of stern words from the other 3/7 people, if not a kick.

This game has been around for many, many years and past a certain level some things can be expected from a player. Basic competence, for example.
However there are virtually NO consequences for lacking said basic competence and other people pay the price for it. Needless to say, after a couple of years carrying others, some get riled up pretty fast.
If someone is actually abusive, you can report them, blacklist them and you're good. Because there are very real consequences for lack of etiquette - unlike for the lack of basic competence.
However over the years I've noticed that a lot of players are really sensitive when it comes to getting advice, constructive criticism or simply getting caught failing miserably at something.
You know, things like "xy please turn the mobs in one direction. telegraphs are all over the place" or "if you dps dont let the party die because of it" or "xy you killed me with your target marker. if I dodge your stuff at least don't follow me".
I read that sort of thing all the time, the cases of insults and verbal abuse are really, really low compared to that. Most of the time it's neither overly polite and super friendly but certainly not abusive or insulting either.

And if you're ruining a farm party, a kick is well deserved. Farm parties mean everyone already knows what they're doing and you don't get a private lesson after failing mechanics. You get a kick. End of story.