What have you done?

[T-Owl]

DRK doesn't.

Why'd you feel guilty about being MT? Heck, if you're DRK you should feel punished for being OT, you want TBN to pop don't you?
I don't see why you should feel bad about using VIT materia, or even chosing not to use STR accessories unless you're one of those that worry about the meta.
Why is using Tank Stance BAD?!?! Even as OT, turning it on would blunt some AoE damage. Unless you're one of those that follow the FFLOGs.

All and all, your complaints seem based around community group think than anything in the game.

I mean, before using tankstance was rather selfish, wasn't it? You could tank perfectly well without it and it just put an extra strain on dps because they have compensate for the damage the tank didn't want to do.