Most of the issues you described could easily be resolved by planning with your friends and our ls members on the next day's events. I'm not quite sure what type of linkshell, guild, static party you have been in the past, but it takes little to no time to identify the next day's plans and log in that area.

That being said the rate of generation right now is ridiculous. I can not remember the last time I was under 80 Anima and I play everyday. What needs to happen is the starting cities removed from the anima teleport list, airships added, anima generation lowered significantly, and finally chocobo's added.