You know, I'll admit to making a mistake - I've been thinking about this on and off during the day and you know what happend? I got angry. And I really shouldnt have been thinking about it, but here is what makes me so angry with the specific request that "stepping on your property should reset the timer already":
First I want to mention that I have an tremendous amount of sympathy for everyone who lost their ingame house due to some reallife issues that prevented them from either paying their sub and/or logging in. I feel deeply sorry for everyone who lost their house because they couldnt reset the timer because they were in a personal crisis or the hospital or in military service or lost their job and couldnt afford to pay for the game anymore. I feel sorry for the people who come back to the game after getting their life back on track and they come back to their house being gone. The current system is not "fair" to those people - or maybe "kind" would be a better word here. And I truely hope they'll find means to change the system in a way that allows you to just keep your ingame home - or add a new system that allows for instances housing that achieves the same thing.
But now lets look what has happend in the OPs case:
We're talking about someone extremly priviliged here. Someone who can afford a sub, who can afford to log in regularly and got to their house regularly. And who still lost it. For the sole and only reason that even though his sub was active and he was at his house, he didnt step inside of it and who didnt lose their home because of anything out of their hands but only because of neglect. I dont even want to say laziness again, because it doesnt feel exactly lazy to me not to enter a house when that takes all of 30 seconds at best...
This is someone who had cake with sprinkles and wants a different kind of sprinkles add to it now.
The system doesnt need to be changed so it counts that you step onto your property. The system is working for everyone who can do that (=stepping onto their property) already - they just need to step inside their house too. I dont see why the whole "Well, they already track that you entered your yard, dont they?"-discussion was needed when the current requirement ("Step inside the house") is just as easy to fullfill as the proposed changed one ("Step on your property at all").
I do wish that one day we can do away with the auto-demolition as it is right now. But I wish that for the people who lose their home to unfortunate circumstances. Not for people who are actually fully capable of keeping their house within the current system but choose not to do so for some reason.