I think you do get an in-game notification for demolition but it comes up in your chat so if you're afk and the chat continued while you were gone, well you don't see it. You do get email notifications but that could get sent to spam depending on your email service and settings.

You can check the demolition info of any house you have access to as an owner/fc member/tenant in the Timers window, however for some reason that timer is invisible until around 10 days before demolition.

I wish we had proper instanced housing so we wouldn't have to worry about this demolition nonsense. Or at least improve apartments enough so that their features are comparable to houses.