The 'unwritten rule' for non-tank pulls in dungeons

[Vahlnir]

This is why I keep my interactions with other players to a minimum. There's always someone with that passive aggressive attitude with their pettiness meter dialed in to 9999. I've lost count of number of tanks that have felt to need to punish other players or myself over nonsense.

If you accidentally pull...
If you intentionally pull...
If you walk in front of...
If you do too much damage (even with diversion)...
If you trigger boss spawn cutscene...
"...you tank it then!"

Have to tip-toe around people like they are surrounded by eggshells, glass, and legos used as caltrops.

It's not being petty if the pulls are being done intentionally. Party etiquette usually dictates that the tank must be the puller. Mistakes happen and people are not perfect. I think all tanks should be able to understand that at least. But their job is to pull and take most of the damage so others don't have to. Making their job harder helps no one. Dps doing too much damage or other players stepping in AoEs? That's something that might be a bit petty for tanks to get upset over. That's not really their concern. Might be the healer's though.