The 'unwritten rule' for non-tank pulls in dungeons

[van_arn]

There's a different between saying "I don't have the gear to do this pull and don't have the confidence yet to do it" and "I refuse to do it"

It's not about not wanting to put in the effort, which you would have seen if you actually paid attention to what I said rather than just continuing with your toxic attitudes, it's about saying "I'm learning, and this is where my current skill level is" Kicking someone while learning is just an asshole thing to do. Parties who kick someone who is being open about how they're still learning their role is why people don't play the role in the first place. There's no opportunity to actually gain the skills you need to do the job the way that those who have been doing it for years do.

New does not apply to any dungeon for tanking beyond Brayflox.

If a tank can't handle aoe threat and cooldowns -all that is necessary for multipulls- beyond that point they need a kick.

If a tank is so badly geared they're in danger from a double pull, they need a kick to purchase better gear.

If they have no gil for gear, they need to find income that does not require a party to carry them.

Once again, tanks are the least necessary role for normal modes. You're going to need to work harder than a healer that can forcibly take your job over if you can't justify your spot on the roster.

Thank square for their incompetent incoming damage adjustments for this situation. Tanks are blue dps because that's all the encounters demand them to be.

As for confidence, a certain degree of that is a prerequisite for tanking. Don't even bother leveling a tank if you don't meet that prerequisite. It's plainly not for the passive player.