I need help understanding different personality types!

[JackHatchet]

Small talk is boring and pointless to me

Do you think it might be a perspective thing? For example. I find 'typing' to be boring and pointless,' but the information I learn from a conversation to be well worth the effort. I don't think anyone gets into small talk (or even typing) with those being the end-goals. I think small talk is a stepping stone to better things. And then by looking at small talk as a necessary stepping stone--do you think that might change how you view it?

Of course that probably only works if the end-goal is worthwhile. If you're not trying to make new friends, then talking to someone can seem rather pointless, lol.

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Edit: or like leveling in a video game. I don't enjoy leveling at the slightest. But I understand that it's a required stepping stone towards end-game content. If it's relatable to something like small talk. Why would someone with Autism choose to do something they might dislike like leveling a character, but would avoid small talk? Shouldn't the philosophy be the same?

Or maybe it could be that the end-game of social situation isn't as tangible as leveling a character? For example, we all know if you level a character--they'll get to 70. Where as there's never any guarantee to what will happen at the end of a conversation. Whether that relationship will blossom into a friendship or something romantic. But (for me at least) I feel that trying is the only way to ever know--so I've often pushed my way into it. I'd never level a character if I didn't get over my dislike for leveling. And I'd never had met my wife if I never gave small talk the opportunity to shine.

But again, from a personal point. If I never get to 70--I can choke it up to just being a meaningless video game. But if I never found my true-love--that'd terrify me. That's basically my reason for living. To build meaningful relationships. So often times I'll throw myself into uncomfortable situations or step out of my comfort-zone, because the fear of never knowing or never trying is absolutely massive compared to my fear of failure.

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DOUBLE EDIT!

The more I think about it, the more I realize that conflicts of interest, varied points of views, and mismatched priority systems are common human failures regardless of Autism or mental-illness. Even the most perfect of people will sometimes struggle with choices. So I think people in general are just confusing, and then mental-issues just add more complexity to the situation.

However, the end-goal of finding happiness is almost universally the same. We just have different methods for obtaining it. Where's a Matrix when we need one, lol.