I need help understanding different personality types!

[JackHatchet]

want people to not try to "read between the lines" when I say a thing. I want people to accept that sometimes I'm just going to be too anxious to do stuff and a lot of times that anxiety comes with a sense of not knowing what I am actually anxious about.

This is an interesting point of interest. Reading between the lines generally arises when communication isn't clear. For example if someone has anxiety, and they don't know how to communicate that to someone--it basically forces them to read between the lines to try and breach that gap in communication. It's one of those two-way street things. Where both parties have to work to meet each other in the middle--or else it can make things worse.

When it comes to the difference between acceptance and tolerance. I think it goes more into the give and take system as well. At least for me. I fully believe that any meaningful relationship, friendship, romantic, ect--requires a balance. If I have an awkward friend, who gives back in a meaningful way--I accept him for his good and his bad. But if I have a friend who doesn't contribute anything, and he's just a friend out of pity--then I merely tolerate him. However, that's not an autistic, or depression, or mental-illness specific thing. I just don't want to hang out with people who take and never give back. I tolerate that they exist, but I don't accept them into my social circles or my communities.

One of the things I've been trying to work on over the years is find ways for people to contribute back more effectively. For example, my ex with the schizophrenia couldn't hold down a job at all. Schizophrenia + social anxiety was a bad combo. So we worked diligently to find alternatives. And eventually we got her into writing fan-fiction. And eventually she became a one on one tutor for college math.

So when I meet people in-game with depression/anxiety. I try to find ways they can contribute to the FC/social circle so they can feel more accepted and less tolerated (you know what I mean). It's not always easy especially with the depression folks, because they seem to need more attention than they're able to give. I apologize for over-generalizing. Also, while I've had some hands on experiences with depression/social anxiety. I'm still new to the whole autism thing. It actually seems like a pretty cool thing for folks to get so involved with their hobbies and passions. I think there's a lot of potential to channel that into something productive.

I know it's easier to just accept people at face value, and try to force something to work, but I'm really excited and interested in more long-term life-lesson type solutions. I like the complexity of it all. I don't like the idea of everyone being judged on the same standards. I think different personality types can excel at different things. And that while we all have strengths and weaknesses--it's doubling down on our strengths that can really make us shine. I think it's terrible sad that some people feel ostracized and lonely when there has to be solutions for people to give back to society and become more desirable in social circles. Anyways, I think I got rambly too.