I need help understanding different personality types!

[Whelp]

Autistic person here.

I'll admit first I didn't read everything here because the replies have an overwhelming amount of text. I'm sorry if I repeat points made.

RE "tolerance": I don't want tolerance. I want acceptance. I want people to respect my desire not to participate in VC unless it's critical for group activities. I want people to understand when I say I don't communicate indirectly I *mean* it. I want people to not try to "read between the lines" when I say a thing. I want people to accept that sometimes I'm just going to be too anxious to do stuff and a lot of times that anxiety comes with a sense of not knowing what I am actually anxious about. I don't want to be told to "get over" my anxiety. I don't want to be told "it's not a big deal". I just want to tell people a thing sucks and not get advice in exchange. I want acceptance. I don't want to be told how to change, what I can do to "make things easier", or that I am being "annoying". I want to feel heard. I want people to know I know my triggers for sensory overstimulation and if I say I can't handle something it's because I am 35 years in to my autistic existence and I know myself really well. I don't want to be told "it's not that bad". I just want people to listen and be compassionate. I want my stims in society to be accepted without being told how weird my hand movements are. I want to flap in public without the weird stares. I want to say something is sensory hell for me without hearing that bright lights don't bother most people. I am not most people. I never will be. I want me as I am to just be without other people trying to change me. I want people to stop making fun of me when I don't get jokes. I want people to stop judging me for taking things literally. I don't want to be tolerated. I want my existence to be a barely noticed blip in a crowd. I want to be accepted.

[AngelCheese77]

Autistic person here.

I'll admit first I didn't read everything here because the replies have an overwhelming amount of text. I'm sorry if I repeat points made.

RE "tolerance": I don't want tolerance. I want acceptance. I want people to respect my desire not to participate in VC unless it's critical for group activities. I want people to understand when I say I don't communicate indirectly I *mean* it. I want people to not try to "read between the lines" when I say a thing. I want people to accept that sometimes I'm just going to be too anxious to do stuff and a lot of times that anxiety comes with a sense of not knowing what I am actually anxious about. I don't want to be told to "get over" my anxiety. I don't want to be told "it's not a big deal". I just want to tell people a thing sucks and not get advice in exchange. I want acceptance. I don't want to be told how to change, what I can do to "make things easier", or that I am being "annoying". I want to feel heard. I want people to know I know my triggers for sensory overstimulation and if I say I can't handle something it's because I am 35 years in to my autistic existence and I know myself really well. I don't want to be told "it's not that bad". I just want people to listen and be compassionate. I want my stims in society to be accepted without being told how weird my hand movements are. I want to flap in public without the weird stares. I want to say something is sensory hell for me without hearing that bright lights don't bother most people. I am not most people. I never will be. I want me as I am to just be without other people trying to change me. I want people to stop making fun of me when I don't get jokes. I want people to stop judging me for taking things literally. I don't want to be tolerated. I want my existence to be a barely noticed blip in a crowd. I want to be accepted.

You have literally described what my husband goes through. Many hugs from me.