I need help understanding different personality types!

[Nora_of_Mira]

I have to admit. I'm still confused! What's the difference between one person's kids, or one person's health issues? Aren't those both personal issues? I mean, kids are a big part of someone's life. They're not just a fluff topic like the weather. Is there a possible disconnect between discerning where the line is between fluff and personal?

most people that you are casually social with (coworkers, neighbors, people you run into playing this game,etc) GENERALLY don't want to know your personal details right off the bat, nor do they want to divulge their own personal details. "Kids" is generally accepted as casual small talk that MOST people can relate to, while personal health isn't. Imagine,

me: "Hows it going JackHatchet?"
you: "well I just went to doc and they said I have permanently-sweaty-knee-pits and Idk how im going to live like this"
me: "....big yikes"

the conversation between casual acquaintances (ie, not friends) pretty much ends right there. there is nothing I can really say that isnt a hard left turn from what you said that wont make everything worse.

So I would say, the line between fluff and personal is whether or not BOTH parties are willing to relate over something trivial/forgettable or confide in one another details that require more attention and understanding.

edit: i'm very socially anxious so take that how you will. Also, I love all your questions.