I need help understanding different personality types!

[Endeleon]

I'll be honest. An autistic or a gay person doesn't have to tell me that they're X, Y, or Z.

Ok but... I don't know if you understand that this in it's nature is discrimination. The fact that you think someone mentioning their autism or being gay is a burden or TMI and makes things uncomfortable but seem to understand people mentioning their kids as being small talk... This is ingrained otherness, aka discrimination.

[JackHatchet]

Ok but... I don't know if you understand that this in it's nature is discrimination. The fact that you think someone mentioning their autism or being gay is a burden or TMI and makes things uncomfortable but seem to understand people mentioning their kids as being small talk... This is ingrained otherness, aka discrimination.

I don't quite follow. But I think this kind of discussion is worth having.

I don't think people mentioning that they're autistic is a burden. However, I'll admit that when people say "I tend to conflict with my community." It causes me to raise an eye-brow. "why is that?" And to me. I just don't see it. Like I said. I've played with a few autistic people. In FC, or in my static, or just folks I run maps with regularly. But I don't see any of the negativity. So when you say there's discrimination--I don't follow. I'll admit that when they first approached me and said "hey, things might be sketchy" that I was concerned. But through the follow-up--I never found any of those concerns to be validated.

An example with someone I used to raid with. They said they don't always mesh. I said that's fine. Just don't lie to me. You can rant or whatever all you want. And basically they were just like everyone else. Showed up. Did their thing. Sometimes they talked a little about a topic no one cared about. But nothing extreme. Like we all talk about something no one cares about from time to time. My current topic is Game of Thrones. So I get the concept of being excited about something and 'over-sharing." but I don't specifically attribute that to autism. Because that's an everybody-ism thing.

Then randomly that person will say they don't fit in. And it absolutely confuses the everliving-heck out of me. I'll be in their group, and we all have fun. They're not offensive. No one is offensive towards them. What exactly are they looking for? Why don't they feel like they fit in? I felt like they fit in. And this is basically the same story with every autistic person I met. They don't stand out to me. So I Clearly don't understand autism. And I guess I'm guilty of that. But again, that's why I'm trying to learn a little more.