I need help understanding different personality types!

[xLucia]

This is just me, but it's not so much that I "drift away" from people. It's more that I really really suck at small talk. Unless I have something to say or talk about, I don't talk with people. Small talk is hard for me as most of the time I just don't care for it.

Also, in general, people with autism find conversing hard. We tend to not grasp social norms or non-verbal cues. We can ramble on and on and not realize the other person has tuned out or wants us to shut up. We tend to "over share" information. Subtlety is hard to grasp, as can be sarcasm. Our brains work and process stuff differently than those without autism, which is why we're seen as "weird." This causes us to be ostracized from others and, most of the time, bullied in school. Most of us WANT to make friends, we just find it very hard to. And that's not even including the emotional/mental stuff that can come with it, which I won't get in to.

Anyway, I'll hush up for now. Autism is different from person to person, but this is how it is for me. Others may be different.

Jup... All true. I only talk when I actually have something to say that I think is worth saying X_x I do join in with small talk when I'm in the mood for it, but I wouldn't normally start such talk myself. And don't even get me started on sarcasm. I fall for it every time because I take many things that are said literally ^^'

Edit: to the OP, it would be really hard to really understand to be honest, because everyone with autism is so different. I am one of those people who can just "drift off" as you call it. And it's not because I don't care or because I don't want to talk to anyone. But because (and I don't want to speak for anyone else with autism) for me personally, I "drift off" because I can get "sucked up" into my own little world, where all that exists is just me and whatever it is I'm doing. That "phase" can lasts for a few hours, a day, or on rare occassions, it can last weeks. Hell sometimes it's so bad that I literally forget to eat or sleep. And most of the time I don't even realise I'm doing it until someone snaps me out of it (this is based on my own experience, atleast)

I'll give you an example for this; When I was in college, in a full classroom with people chatting and laughing and what not, I was so focussed on doing my homework that eventually I completely blocked out all of that noise. At one point, my classmate, who sat next to me, was calling, and eventually sorta yelling my name like 7 times (or so she told me) And I didn't react. At all. She had to literally push my shoulder to get my attention. I don't even remember her saying my name. I "snapped out" once she touched me. And then she was like "dude, I called your name like 7 times, where were you?"