Was I in the wrong?

[Canadane]

Honestly, a lot of the replies on this thread make me sad. Some people just don't get it.

The simplest thing is this: Harassment is any, ANY, unwanted behavior that makes you feel uncomfortable. It doesn't matter how you rationalize it in your head that its "okay", even if it's culturally accepted, the other person doesn't even have to know it's harassment. But if it's a behavior that someone is doing specifically to you, that you find uncomfortable, that's harassment, pure and simple. It has nothing to do with thick or thin skin or understanding commonalities. Not to mention if it's brought to that persons attention and they still don't stop, well depending on what the harassment was, probable recoil is acceptable. In FFXIVs case reporting to a GM.

Sometimes life includes things you don't want to hear.
Someone may be playing very incorrectly, to the point they are unknowingly causing disruptions in the party.
You want an ice mage to never be told using fire spells is how the job works, simply because he may be offended over being told he's playing wrong? Want someone that doesn't know the difference between stack markers and proximity damage markers to never learn?

These are simple examples, of course. Lifes intricacies means much more subjective themes. You'll never be able to please everyone, so the best course of action would be open discussion. Not just blanket claiming everything can be considered harassment.