Quote Originally Posted by Awha View Post
Sorry, by the what if statements I more so meant as a group should we base our judgement of a player around unseen factors? Or should we assume such factors off the bat and proceed accordingly?

Reason I ask is because I tend to treat people as I would not mind being treated, but as I have noticed that has lead to some interesting encounters because how I am okay with being treated seems to differ from the general soical or communally norms.

For future reference since I do not wish to cause players unnecessary grief do you think instead of using my level of tolerance as a baseline should I go based off some other metric? If so what would you suggest?
No worries about the what-ifs

Much like you, I was raised to treat others as I wish to be treated. To be polite, kind, and courteous towards others. I believe if everyone was like this, the world we live in would be more just, and threads like this would not exist.

Sadly, the world is cruel, and people are cruel. It is not kind, or just, or fair. Despite this, it doesn't and never will change the respect and kindness I will initially show towards others. Only when people show a lack of courtesy and respect will I return it in kind. So to directly answer your question, I am going to say no. The moment we give into defeatism, we're no better than those who are selfish and only care about their own gains in this world. It is absolute that I will be disappointed time and time again by remaining tolerant, I don't care. I refuse to change who I am, and start stepping on others to gain ground.

Tankxiety is a real thing. It does not matter how easy or difficult it actually is. It's easy for one person to get into a hot air balloon as well, but if I do it I will start freaking out as soon as it gets to a height where falling would cause injury or death. The mind is so powerful. It can cripple someone who isn't even in a threatening situation. I know this from my own experience, and I will never underestimate how it can affect others. I would never, ever try to get someone to do something they are not comfortable with. I might try to encourage them through ensuring their safety, but that is about as far as it goes.