Free Transfer question

[Baxcel]

In regards to this: I would strongly advice you to NOT transfer and keep the house, since this will allow you to relocate to any open plot which ignores the RNG-timer placed on plots. Its much, much easier to get a (better) house when you already have one! You'll also get a discount on any larger house you purchase if you relocate - "When purchasing a plot for relocation, 30% of the minimum value of your old plot will be applied towards the price of the new one." (https://de.finalfantasyxiv.com/lodes...0dd62c3c50fc74)
This might not be much in regards to a small house (~300k), but honestly: Neither are 3 million.

You already have a foot in the door of the housing-game, which is worth a lot more than 3 million gil! If getting money to upgrade your house is the only reason for you to transfer, I would strongely suggest against it.
Getting gil is easy.
Getting a house isnt.

Even if your server has a lot of empty plots right now with the free transfer people might just come over and buy those up, so you could end up with 3 million gil more but no home at all in the end.

Fair point, ill keep that in mind. Wait an see house the housing plots change when the transfers come along.

[Baxcel]

Also u don't just get to swap right back, your stuck on ur new server for a while. Just make money a different way

As long as its not a congested, new, or perfered server the wait time is only 3 days. Itll be 90 days if it's any of the above statuses

[Brynne]

I did this a couple years ago when I returned to the game, and I would not recommend it. The gil wasn't worth the hassle. Not being able to play with your friends/partner is pretty annoying. I guess it's fine if you're staying on the same data center, but I honestly don't think it's a good tradeoff for the inconvenience. Gil isn't that hard to make.

As for your questions...

1)What happens to my married status and items if I transfer and my partner dosnt? (I do plan on returning to my orginal server after, but don't wanna mess anything up)

As soon as you transfer to the same server as your bonded partner, the bond goes back to normal (as long as you don't throw away the ring). While you're on different servers, the ring maintains its appearance but doesn't do anything.

2)Were normally requires to demolish our houses, but im assuming you don't if you want the refund and 3m gil? What will happen to all my items since your suppose recover them before transferring?

You demolish the house but don't relinquish the land. Remove any furnishings you can before doing that - the ones that you can't retrieve once placed are the reason you get 3 mill gil from the transfer. This was a hassle imo. You can't keep the items in housing storage or anything; they have to be in your inventory or your retainer's inventory. Depending on your inventory management and how much furniture you have, you may have to do some serious purging.

3) Will my friends list still be wiped if i transfer back? Or will it restore itself after i return?

It will be wiped and you won't get it back. EDIT: Sorry, I mixed this up with the blacklist. Just don't delete the 'unable to retrieve' from it and I think it should be fine?

4) As long as i go to a non-congested, Non-New, an Non-Perfered server i can return in 3days?

This I can't answer, because at the time when I transferred the gil offer was only good if you went to a new server or to a preferred server from a congested one, so the lockout was three months. I assume this is the case, but no other way to confirm than to try it and see what happens.

[Celestene]

I wondered if there is a 30 day wait if you have more than one character to move or can you move them all? No intention of moving back to the old server. Like can 2 different characters transfer same day or is there the wait?

[Valkyrie_Lenneth]

I wondered if there is a 30 day wait if you have more than one character to move or can you move them all? No intention of moving back to the old server. Like can 2 different characters transfer same day or is there the wait?

If they are on the same server, and going to the same server, yes.

Otherwise you have to wait 3 days.