The problem is alot of people have all DoW/M level 50 so the only way they can help you is by PLing you, this means they go out of thier way for no gain, nice to see who actually wants to help people rather than get things for themselves.

Currently Yoshi-P is focusing the game around keeping the current playerbase to see it through to 2.0, at 2.0 there will be more low level content when he is expecing alot of people coming.

For you I would say it might be best to keep looking for other linkshells, you will find one that suits you, or you could put your flag up and grind leves till you get a party, or shout in Ul'dah, not many other options for you atm.